How does one gain momentum? You either are motivated or not, you cannot segregate motivation, you cannot be motivated at home and then not motivated at work. If you are, that means there’s something missing in your life.
Gain Momentum: Live your life passionately and aggressively
Back in 2012, I was fired from my consulting job.
It hurt tremendously. I lost all of my gain momentum. It was the first time in my life that someone told me that I wasn’t good enough professionally. I felt lost, disillusioned and cynical, I didn’t know what to do and I didn’t have any motivation for anything. The only thing that amused me was laying on the couch, eating Haagen-Dazs ice cream and watching re-runs of Tosh.0 (By the way, it’s one of the funniest shows today)
I felt bad for myself, I knew I had to re-write my resume, send emails, look for jobs online etc. But my body wasn’t following. It seemed like the couch activated his tractor beam and glued it onto me.
Days passed. Weeks passed and then months passed. Still no job. Still no motivation.
The next logical thing to do was blame everybody and everything else.
- It was the economy’s fault
- My client was an asshole
- Online job search are useless
- The grocery store is out of Rocky Road ice cream
I was stuck in a rut. And I knew it. And to be perfectly honest, I liked it, I like being cocooned in my little apartment. Feeling sorry for myself was fun! I liked being sad, I liked staying up late and sleeping in the morning, I deserve it, I was unemployed, I felt safe in my misery!
But I knew I couldn’t live like this forever. Something had to be done. But what? So I did what every person of my generation would do. I would google it! Surely Google has the answer.
At first, I found hundreds of solutions. Some suggested that I seek professional help. Perhaps speak to my doctor so he can prescribe some magic pills. Or join a support group.
God knows there’s a support group for everything nowadays.
Lucky for me, I found an article written by James Altucher. You can read it here. And he describes his Daily Practice.
I like James. I like his writing. It’s so honest that it bleeds.
Sometimes, you can actually feel his pain thought his written words.
So at that very moment. I decided to change my life. That I was going to leave the nest. That I was going out and hunt my prey.
The first step you need to do is decided what you want. Find out in your heart of hearts. What you truly desire. For me, it was living my life to my fullest potential.
That meant. No more TV, no more ice cream. No more late nights and late mornings. And no more self-pity.
So I got one early one morning and I purchased a cheap notebook and added the title “Joe’s Journal” and I began writing.
I wrote every little thought that passed in my head. Everything. The good, the bad, the ugly. I just needed a safe place to clear my head. The brain dump had to be done manually. Writing my thoughts on Microsoft Word doesn’t have the same impact. Writing long hand can be therapeutic. I wrote whatever was on my mind. Some days, it might be 5 pages long and other 1. Who cares? I just needed to empty my brain and I felt fantastic afterwards.
After I completed my writing, I went for a walk. Every day. Just a walk. Nothing special. I added some calming music on my iPod and walked 30 mins one way. And 30 mins coming back. Every day. Every morning, right after my writing. No excuses. After a few weeks. I added some push-ups. Just 1 today. Then 2, then 3. And eventually I did 10 sets of 10 push-ups. Afterwards, I added sit-ups and body weight squats.
After my morning walks, I came back to my desk and did 5 things that would help me find a job. Whatever it is. Rewrite my resume. Send an email to my network, learn a new skill etc.
5 things. Every day. No excuses.
And finally, I read the Book of Proverbs and attended church. I’m not big on religion but somehow believe and giving myself to a higher power liberated me. And there’s lots of wisdom in the book of proverbs. No matter which religion you practice.
So going back to your question, how do you stay motivated? I suggest that you work on the four most important aspects of your life.
- Emotional (find out what your heart truly desires)
- Physical (get your body moving, sweat!)
- Mental (write ideas!)
- Spiritual (read something meaningful to you)
You can do anything, just ensure that you work on those aspects every day. No excuses. Consequently, you cannot begin to image how much your life will change when you do.
I hope this helps.